How can we deal with the topics of division that surround us in our country and in our community? We all have dealt with times of disagreement, tiredness, aggravation, and simply being “worn” of how we view our treatment from others or from a situation. We may not want to talk or find it difficult to express our feelings to others when division arises. Or we may be “so ready” to convey our points of grievance that we explode emotionally. In either case, disgruntlement and divisiveness become dilemmas because discussions did not take place. Many times, we carry an issue(s) around with us because we do not want to discuss the proverbial “pink elephant in the room.” Meaning, we all know there is tension surrounding a topic that no one wants to address but we know is present. Hence, problems begin to grow. James 1:14-15 says But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin when it is full-grown, brings forth death. When we are reluctant to deal with conflict, negative feelings towards others grow and if we aren’t careful, mishandle a delicate situation.
James goes on to say in verses nineteen and twenty, So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God. This reminds us to be active listeners and communicate by withholding our words until we “hear” someone. Additionally, our response to other’s frustration should begin with empathy. May we show others we are concerned, genuinely interested, acknowledging their emotions, building trust, and moving towards a positive mindset when dealing with conflict. Paul even found a way to further the conversation in Acts 17: 22! Unchecked emotions fuel frustration when situations are fragile. Let us focus on solutions instead of assumptions.
